Well, as many of you may recall from an earlier post, my mother got remarried a couple of years ago. I was against this at the start, because I didn’t even know who she was marrying. And it all happened so fast, that I didn’t even have time to process it. But she was happy and in love and that was good enough for me.
Well, I got a very tragic phone call from my mother last night. It appears my mother’s new husband passed away a couple of days ago from a heart attack at the age of 58. And just like her marriage, it has all happened so fast. She was being incredibly strong about the entire ordeal from what I could tell on the phone , but I know that she is heart broken. She was so happy with Dave. I could tell from every single phone conversation that she finally had something good going. You see, this had not always been the case for my mother.
My mother had a pretty nasty marriage to my father. After a while, the love disappeared and all that was left was fighting and stupidity. Eventually, my father started gambling and we lost our house, and my mother decided that it was time to get out of that situation. They divorced and we moved into a new house. Eventually, my family moved to the U.S. and I moved here to Japan. Well, she met Dave when she was traveling on a visit to my siblings in Vermont. They hit it off and decided to get married. My mother had never been happier. And that is why that phone call hit me harder than anything in a long time.
I only met Dave once. And that was at the airport shortly after they had just met. I would have liked to have gotten to know him more. He gave my mother something that she had not had in a long time. Peace.
Well, that peace has been disrupted, and it is out of any of our control. No one can predict these things and no one can plan for them. My siblings flew out this morning to be with her. Due to my great distance, I am unable to be with her physically at the moment, but I am there with her. And I always will be. I am going to try and get out to be with my family as soon as I can. For now I hope my voice will be enough. The very odd thing about this entire situation is that the people that I cherish the most are still safe, but there is much sadness and sorrow for them. And once again, there is little I can do to alleviate it. Our lives have changed so much in just two years. And now they change again.
My Mother deserves to be happy. She has been a source of strength for me and my siblings for the last 29 years. Tonight she is not happy. She is grieving and she is heart broken. My heart goes out to her tonight. My biggest fear is that I will never receive a happy sounding phone call from her again. If that does indeed happen, then it is my heart that will be broken. I am not a religious man, but if you believe in a spiritual entity of some kind, I would be very grateful in you could pray for my mother and rest of Dave’s family tonight. I do wish that they will be able to find peace again in this life. And this message is for you Dave, whereever you might be at this moment: Thank you for making my mother happy. Even if it was for just a short time. You’ve earned your ticket. Now get some rest.
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